How to Help a Female Orgasm?
When we talk about sexual pleasure, there exist multifarious disparities between male and female sexual pleasure. Living in a patriarchal society, many times we find that men’s sexual satisfaction is considered a need, while female sexual pleasure and orgasm are seen as obscene subjects even today.
According to research, an average male takes 5 to 7 minutes to cum during sex. On the contrary, an average female takes about 13.41 minutes to achieve an orgasm, which points out the fact that males finish off faster than females, leaving lesser scope for them to reach their climax. As demonstrated by Durex India, about 70% of females in our country do not orgasm every time they have sex.
Sex is two-way and is all about giving and receiving pleasure. You must understand the fact that females are different and so are their body needs. You must be accepting and open to trying new playful strategies that can make you help her reach orgasm.
Some Types of Female Orgasms
Yes, you heard that right! Females can have different types of orgasms:
1. Clitoral Orgasm: Being one of the most common types of orgasms, clitoral orgasms take place when the clit is directly and continuously stimulated. It is often short-lasting.
2. Vaginal Orgasm: G-Spot is located inside the vagina, a few inches above the pubic bone. Vaginal orgasms happen when the G-Spot is stimulated and lead to extreme sexual arousal for females. They are longer lasting than clitoral orgasms.
3. Blended Orgasm: The combination of clitoral orgasm and vaginal orgasm is what defines blended orgasm. When both clitoral and vaginal orgasm takes place at the same time, it is called a blended orgasm. The duration of these orgasms varies in different females lasting anywhere between one to fifteen minutes.
4. Anal Orgasm: The clitoral legs stretch back even to the anus, making anus stimulation a source of experiencing some crazy fun during sex.
5. Nipple Orgasm: Some females orgasm on nipple stimulation as well. Nipple orgasm can be an effective starter pack for turning her on and making her reach the climax.
Ways to Make her Orgasm
Sex differs for everyone including males and females. What might work for you, might make your partner uncomfortable. The sole key is meeting halfway by having a clear and straightforward conversation with your partner. Leave the guess-game behind and get to talking, to make the best out of the below-listed ways to make her come:
1. Kiss her for a mental arousal
Mental arousal can be important for some women to achieve physical arousal. Studies suggest that kissing can reduce stress levels up to a good extent. Furthermore, kissing can also help build a connection and sense of trust pf your partner towards you, which can help her relax and get sexually aroused. Intense kisses on the lips and neck can be really helpful.
2. A steamy foreplay can change the game
Females want to feel connected, and a passionate foreplay helps them feel the same. Hopping straight to humping might make her uncomfortable and lead her to require more time for orgasming. Foreplay helps you to get her turned on and set the mood for the sexy fun coming forth.
3. Aim for THOSE spots
The two most critical spots that can help achieve a woman’s orgasm are the clitoris and the G-Spot. Clitoris is located on the outside of the female body near the upper part of the vulva. It has more than 8000 nerve endings and is extremely sensitive in nature. Rubbing, licking, and sucking the clit can arouse the clitoris, making it erect. On the contrary, G-Spot is located inside the body in the vagina. Like clit, the spot also has multiple nerve endings and is highly arousing for females. Target the two spots, play with them and explore them to make her reach an orgasmic state.
4. Opt for the right sex positions
Sex positions also play an indispensable role in making a woman orgasm. Opt for the right sex positions that allow direct stimulation of her sensitive organs and make her come. A few effective sex positions could be:
Missionary with a Cushion: For the position, you have to be in the classic missionary pose, but adding a cushion at the bottom of her back can help both you and your partner achieve the angle that maximizes the stimulation.
The Spooning Position: In this position, your partner has to be on her side while you penetrate her from behind. Try rubbing her clitoris while humping. Although the position is effective, some women might find it difficult to attain complete satisfaction being on their side.
The Pinner Position: In this one, your partner lies facing down and you lie on top of her. You then have to penetrate her from behind. The sensations that your partner will get with a rear entry are going to be intense in the pinner pose, leading to better satisfaction.
The Sit to Standing Position: Female orgasms are not as easy as those of males. They need to be relaxed, which is why this position serves them. In this one, she lies on her back while you stand and enter her, being on the edge of the bed.
5. Spice up the fun with sex toys
Sex toys like clitoris vibrators can be a great way to lead your woman to climax. While many women might be comfortable using sex toys, some might not like the idea to use them to reach climax. So it is important to talk it out with your partner.
Let us know which of these ways works the best for you. Do you have any other ways? Let us know in the comment section below.
